How to Fix Your Etiquette Mistakes
It’s easy to make etiquette blunders, especially since social norms and rules often change. What you think is polite might actually come across as annoying. Sometimes, the issue is that youâre trying too hard to avoid being rude and end up overdoing it. Finding the right balance is key. Etiquette expert Lisa Grotts suggests focusing on kindness and respect rather than rigid rules.
âPoliteness isnât about strict rules; itâs about being kind, respectful, and considerate in every situation,â she says. âInstead of asking âIs this polite?â ask yourself âIs this kind or helpful?â This shift in perspective will make it easier to navigate social interactions.â
If youâre prone to making these common etiquette mistakes, you should also be aware of the signs of over-politeness, avoid rude conversation habits, and know which polite behaviors flight attendants find bothersome. First, check out these polite habits that may be more annoying than you think.
1. Cheek Kissing or Hugging Hello
Before the pandemic, it was common to greet people with cheek kisses, hugs, or other physical contact. However, many people did not appreciate this, even before health concerns became a priority. Etiquette expert Julia Esteve Boyd notes that these gestures can invade personal space and make people uncomfortable.
Do this instead: Unless you are with close friends or family, avoid physical contact and simply say hello. A warm smile or friendly nod can be just as effective and respectful. Be mindful of current etiquette norms for in-person greetings as well.