16. Offering to Share a Bite of Food
While sharing your food might seem generous, it can be considered impolite. Boyd explains that sharing food directly from your fork or drink can be uncomfortable for others.
Do this instead: If you want to share, serve a portion of the food on a separate plate or use the other personâs utensil to offer it to them. Avoid sharing drinks or straws unless the person is someone youâre very close to, like a partner. And if someone declines your offer, respect their choice and donât pressure them.
17. Ordering for Someone Else
It may appear thoughtful to order food for someone else, but it can come off as condescending. Boyd notes that your dining companions can order for themselves and should be given that opportunity.
Do this instead: Ask if your companions would like suggestions, but let them make their own choices. The exception might be young children, who may need a bit of help ordering, but ensure it doesnât put the server in an awkward position.
17. Being Vague When Asked on a Date
Being non-committal when invited out can seem polite, but it often leads to confusion and mixed signals. Boyd advises against being vague as it can be more frustrating than a direct response.
Do this instead: Be clear about your availability and intentions. Itâs important to be honest and straightforward. If youâre not interested, itâs better to decline politely rather than leaving someone hanging. Avoid ghosting, as it can be hurtful and impolite.
source:
Lisa Grotts, etiquette expert with Golden Rules Gal
Julia Esteve Boyd, etiquette and protocol coach and co-host of the podcast Manners Matter 2
Charlotte Hilton Andersen, Reader’s Digest